How to Keep Your Relationship Strong and Healthy.

 You want to have a happy and a healthy relationship? Here are some of the things you need to know and practice.

There are various kinds of love, however, many people focus on romantic relationships that involve love with their partners. In the present days, we are witnessing relationships succumb and others leading to depression or even more, extreme hatred once the goals are not achieved. Most of the relationships that fail are as a result of lack of direction, other times you will find people are in relationships not because of love but for emotional, financial or physical dependency. You find most of the relationships end once the benefits cease to be there. 

People should pause and ask themselves what is it they are doing wrong so as to evaluate the strategies that can help improve their relationships. Below are some of the guidelines to help you develop and maintain healthy relationships. Have a look.

10 Tips for Healthy Relationships

1. Have realistic expectations

You should always remember that having high expectations on someone may at times lead to frustrations. No one wants to be frustrated in this life. For one to have a healthy relationship, he or she should know that people cannot be what other people want them to be. One should therefore accept the other person for what they are and not try to change them to fit their needs.

2. Communicate well

Talking to one another will help you develop and maintain a relationship that is admirable. It is essential for you to take time and be there for your partner, listen to your partner well so as to genuinely understand how they feel, their worries and their perspectives on certain matters. Communicating well also ensures that one gets enough time to ask questions so as to know what bothers them, know their opinions, interests and life experiences.

3. Have goals

Have a common purpose that keeps you going. Apart from having individual goals to achieve, people should have something that they target to work on together. For example, you can have business ideas and implement them. Accomplishing something as a couple brings a certain kind of pride and boosts the bound between two people. When people keep contacting each other on a certain thing, it strengthens their communication,it also makes them be more accountable.

4. Be dependable 

You should embrace trustworthiness; when you trust your partner, it means you are ready to involve them in most of your matters. Depending on each other helps boost the bond in that you can if there is a plan, someone should take responsibility to complete it.

5. Be happy first 

Don’t expect your happiness to come from other people. You should focus on making yourself happy first, the best kind of happiness should come from within. Have something you do that makes you feel happy, like developing a hobby or two. Having an outlet to express yourself and relieve tension and stress in your life will make you a happier person and make you a better partner.

6. Keep your life balanced

In as much as being in relationship and doing things together is interesting, it is not fully satisfying and doesn’t meet all the needs. A healthy relationship has a room for doing individual stuff. There could be things that you do that are not interesting to your partner, you can engage in such activities with other people in your life without bothering what you share in common with your partner.

7. Be yourself

Do not try to pretend to be someone you are not or can’t be. It will cost you nothing to be realistic. You should show displeasure where need be other than suppressing something and remain disturbed within self.

8. Apologize if you’ve done something wrong

You should be ready to take responsibility for your mistakes. Don’t let your partner keep guessing where they would have wronged or let them carry unnecessary guilt where they don’t know what to make out of situations.

9. Remember it’s a process

There are things that you do not expect to grow and stabilize all of a sudden; relationships are one of the them.  We all know that it takes time to meet people and get to know them in greater depths; the same happens to healthy relationships, you learn about your partner and know what to practice with them and things keep getting better.

10. Fight fair

It is unrealistic for a person to move into a relationship expecting sweetness all along. A relationship could be very healthy and still be associated with conflicts. This means that it is okay to disagree on something but it should not mean you no longer like each other.

You should consider being calm while talking in such situations to avoid saying something that you would regret later.  You should keep your words clear and specific by being factual of what annoyed you while avoiding criticism or judging your partner, address the problem other than attacking the person.

"Find happiness, be at peace, achieve your goals and have your priorities right, cause at the end of the day,life has to be lived to its fullness".